Rooted Community: Bailey T. Hurley
Friendships are hard. Especially when it comes to managing them and our personal lives. Even though they can be hard to cultivate at times friendships are something we have been called to. Its about community and coming together with our vulnerabilities, insecurities and calling out the beauty and strengths that we see in each other. Bailey T. Hurley has started a platform that focuses on the many questions and challenges that come with building a community of friendships. We love following her on instagram and seeing how she is breaking barriers and changing the way we approach relationships on a daily basis.
1) What’s your story?
Bailey’s story in bullet points:
Met and decided to follow Jesus in the 8th grade at a summer camp.
Left for college and cried for hours with my friends before we all left to go to different schools.
Went to Pepperdine University and studied Rhetoric and Leadership, it was a love/hate experience.
Moved to Denver to study Leadership and received my Masters in 2015 from Denver Seminary.
Never thought too much about being a wife or mother and within 14 months, I was both.
Left my job to stay home with our son and began to write. Created an online ministry through writing.
Now, married for 3+ years, with a 2-year-old and a second baby on the way.
Seeing God move in my business by opening up speaking opportunities, writing opportunities and even own my own online shop (Rooted Community Shop)
2) How did this ministry begin regarding friendships?
I want to say it began a long time ago because being a good friend is a lifetime ministry. I grew up with incredible, godly friends. They were super goofy and fun, but serious about loving Jesus. So, when I began a writing ministry, I wrote on a variety of topics and was ready to find my niche. I asked friends and family what topic they believed I had a lot of wisdom about and a lot of them mentioned: hospitality, friendship, community.
I had never considered writing on community and female friendships, but it felt so natural. I have been writing on this topic for a little over a year and I pray the Lord continues to inspire creative, insightful and encouraging friendship truths that women can relate to and grow in.
3)How do you feel that this ministry has impacted people and the women in your community?
Sometimes, we just need someone to show us the way. I certainly haven’t invented anything “new,” but it is helpful to have someone give encouraging reminders. I love hearing how women are pursuing their friends, working through a friendship breakup or building community right where they are because of something they have read. Truly, every woman is a community-builder, but she just needs to be empowered to make some friendship moves with the resources and talents she already has.
4) What would be your advice to women be who are wanting to start something similar?
Don’t make it hard. If gathering all the women in your church feels overwhelming, then you probably shouldn’t start there. Instead, begin with a book club or a coffee get-together and go from there. Meet outside your house if cooking or serving in your home makes you nervous. Set a time for women from work to go on a walk or moms in your neighborhood to meet at the park. Again, simple start but big reward.
Plan and follow through. As a planner, I get the exhaustion of always being the one who organizes people. But I’ve noticed, if I don’t do it…there would be a lot less friend time. So now we just need more initiators who are proactive about sending the invites, putting dates on their calendar and sticking to their commitments. That can totally be you and your community will thank you.
Consistent time pays off. Keep a consistent activity on your planner to spend time with a few women. To create a connected community, you have to spend consistent time together.
Get help! When you sense another community-builder amongst you, ask for help! You can’t sustain the vision for God-centered community all on your own. Invite women to help plan with you, help pray with you and become initiators themselves.
5) Do you feel it’s important for women to know they have a voice and a purpose?
Yes, if they know that their purpose and voice are used for the glory of God and to proclaim His truths. I think purpose and “a voice” can be really intimidating to pursue. But if you are communicating God’s love in whatever you do then, it is an exciting gift to be a woman on mission.
6) How would you encourage women to live a meaningful impactful life?
I think a meaningful life can be found in any season as long as you are content. In Philippians 4, Paul talks about learning to be content in plenty or in need. In that context, he is talking about physical, financial blessings but I think it is still true for a lot of our lives. I often want more, or the next season, or what my other friend has, or more talents and more time. It’s easy to want something “more” or “different” for your life, but there is meaning in wherever God has you now. Finding a place of content is powerful. Then you can find peace in the good and bad of your season—a peace that only comes through God who strengthens you for all things. Your life has meaning now. You can make an impact now; especially, when you realize that the best God has for you is right now.
Contributor: Bailey T. Hurley